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Surgery Day
Support and Caregiving

Surgery Day: Must-Haves for Caregivers

Being a caregiver on a loved one’s surgery day can feel overwhelming, especially for motor vehicle accident survivors and their families. Preparing yourself as the caregiver is just as important as preparing the patient. Staying organized, nourished, and calm ensures you can provide the support your loved one needs throughout surgery and recovery.

Take Your Medications on Time

Surgeries often happen early in the morning, and changes to your routine can make it easy to forget your own medications. Set an alarm or keep medications in your bag to stay on track.

Plan for Extra Time

Even if the surgical team estimates a certain length of time for the procedure and recovery, plan for delays. If they suggest three hours, consider preparing for five. Extra time ensures less stress and more flexibility.

Organize Home and Work Responsibilities Ahead of Time

Knowing your home and work obligations are covered allows you to focus completely on your loved one. Arrange meals, childcare, and work tasks ahead of time to reduce distractions.

Pack a Small Bag with Essentials

Bring a small bag for both you and your loved one. Include items such as personal essentials, the patient’s valuables, snacks, water, and anything you may need during a potentially long wait.

Stay Nourished and Hydrated

Surgery days can be unpredictable. Bring breakfast and snacks for yourself, and drink plenty of water. Your loved one may be unable to eat or drink, but staying fueled and hydrated helps you remain alert, patient, and present.

Take Short Walks and Stretch Breaks

Once your loved one is in the operating room, take a few minutes to stretch, grab a snack, and refill your water bottle. Moving your body helps reduce stress and maintain energy for the waiting period ahead.

Create a Comfortable Waiting Space

Set up a space in the waiting room that works for you. Sit in a comfortable chair, bring a book or notebook, or set up a small “mini-workstation.” Comfort and mental breaks help you stay patient and attentive.

Take Refreshing Breaks

If surgery or recovery takes several hours, visit the hospital cafeteria for a hot or cold drink or a light snack. Small breaks can improve mood, reduce fatigue, and help you endure long waits with patience.

Prepare for the Drive Home

Keep a small kit in your car for the ride home. Include crackers, juice, water, and a blanket or wrap to keep your loved one comfortable. Having these items ready allows you to focus on safe driving while supporting their needs.

Pause and Recharge Your Mind

Take breaks from screens and technology. Step away to stretch, walk, breathe mindfully, or simply rest your eyes. Small pauses help maintain calm, focus, and patience throughout the day.

Final Thoughts

Being a caregiver on surgery day is a critical role, and your preparation directly impacts your loved one’s comfort and recovery. Staying hydrated, nourished, organized, and mindful ensures you can provide the support they need. You are doing a meaningful and invaluable service, and taking care of yourself makes you an even stronger caregiver.